Pay It Forward: Writing Reviews When People Are Crushing It

by Lauren Schneidewind on January 12, 2016

A few years ago I started writing my first online reviews, mostly because this was a way to get my opinion out there and feel heard. Who doesn’t like to have a voice every now and then? However, younger and not-as-wise me didn’t realize the impact or lack there of I was making. I realized the only time I would sit down and take the time to write a review was when I experienced something abnormally awful or I felt extremely displeased with something. I do not mean I constantly bashed people online and acted like a troll, but I will admit I probably sat down and wrote a negative review about twice a year. My issue with this is I never took the time to sit down and write a positive review when in reality; I had many more exceptionally good things happen than exceptionally bad.

This is when I had a realization that I need to stop focusing on the negative. This gives the bad experiences, bad anything really, power over you. A good friend of mine, Ragnihildur Seatter, once ask me, “Why do you give negative events that kind of power over you?” She was referring to not hating anything or keeping negative energy out of her life. She has a great point, why I am allowing negative experiences or people upset me? Or why am I taking the time to rehash a negative experience that I had. So, I decided to take her advice (several years later) and really work on letting the negative go and embracing the positive.

Let’s get back to our topic, Pay It Forward. Now, I am letting go of the negative and redirecting all of that energy into something positive. I am taking the time to focus on all of the remarkably great experiences and I am writing about them instead. Even this small change in attitude; I have seen to have great benefits. By focusing on the great things that have happened, I am reliving the good. I am taking the good in and giving it power.

This is not to say learning does not come from negative outcomes. I am just saying, why dwell on them. Let’s learn from them and then move on. I am a big believer in learning from my failures by actively embracing them and learning what not to do in the future. The difference here is I change the negative experience into something beneficial. Then I embrace the good or the learning that comes from that event. Paying it forward can be a new way of saying “what goes around comes around.”

One of my goals for 2016 is to spend more time focusing on the positives. I will take more time out to acknowledge when people I interact with are actively crushing it. I will be going out of my way to let people I think are awesome know it. This will be one of my many contributions and attempts at my greatest goal in life, which is to make the world a better place. This is a pretty lofty goal, but I attempt to make small strides everyday, starting with providing praise, when praise is deserved.

What is you ultimate life goal? Goals for 2016? Love what I have to say, let’s start a conversation.


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